Choosey Lovers

Picking at "Old Scabs"

 

We've all done it, and will probably do it again. Those old scabs that seem to have almost fully healed are so tempting to pick at aren't they? We try to avoid them, knowing that they will just start bleeding again.. but sometimes its hard to resist.

And no, I'm not talking about an actual scab, I'm talking about those "EX" boyfriends. Yep, those little snakes.

Seems like a radar goes off when you're finally happy and content without them, right? They start itching, hitting your line, texting you good morning, liking all your pics on IG, subtweeting you..you know, the normal EX routine. So annoying. but eventually we cave into it. We say "let me just see what they want"...wrong move! Why?

Well, what's really the point? Obviously they have a plan & that plan is to get right back into your life and pick up where they left off. This usually is for their own benefit/happiness and has nothing to do with you or your well being. They just want to wake up those old feelings because they "miss you". But is it you that they really miss?

Is it the 'new you' they see on your Facebook page or is it the old memories they're holding on from 3 years ago?

So, what ends up happening? You fight the urge and start picking at the scab. You start texting..checking on each other more often..you may even sneak in a few late night phone calls to reminisce. And it only gets worse from there. Now you're planning to meet.

Picking at the scab wasn't enough, you're ready to peel that bad boy right on off! You've already started! Why not finish the job, right?!

You meet. Its..awkward. It wakes up so many emotions and memories. You start thinking maybe it could work again? You forget why it even ended! You get caught up in the false hope they feed you about it being "meant to be" and blah blah blah. The scab is peeled, and you feel kind of relieved. accomplished even. But what have you really done?

Time passes and you start to sting. Those same irritating things that pushed you away start coming back. You realize nothing has really changed, and in reality the hurt is still there! The pain resurfaces and you're bleeding again...left to deal with the healing process all over again. And how did this benefit you?

It didn't. Just retaught you a old lesson you clearly forgot.

Now in some rare cases, love from the past can return and work out great! But in most instances, it just doesn't work out.

I've done this and what I've learned is that its not worth it to pick at the scab. Let it heal and fall off on its own. Its only purpose is to leave a small scar reminding you of your lessons learned and to never return.